i would say that their biggest problem would be staying together, and getting over their guilt. and also, figuring out what to do with their new child.
putting your child first, the health of mother and child, money, finishing school, finding employment, balancing your needs with the needs of your baby, acceptance within your social circle.
I hope you have support, and I hope you consider adoption.
Um, stereotypes. And Judgment.
But thats okay because when you see your child, its all worth it.
well i think the biggest challenge would be rassing a child if ur expecting one another would probably be jelousy i duno bout u but if i see my b.f wit another girl i get paranoid =]
It's harder than belief. Being 14 is the opening of teen life, where kids shouldn't have much to worry about, and enjoy their adolescent years! They should look forward to spending time with friends on Friday nights, instead of thinking about their child. Being pregnant at 14 is unbelievably stressful on parents. The teens can't drive yet, so parents are dutied to the task of driving their son-in law and daughter around, and to feed and clothe the baby, considering that these young teens cannot be hired for a reasonable-paying job, with school.
the biggest thing you will face is judgement and everyone trying to get you to put it up for adoption or get an abortion. on this issue do what YOU want to do. if you keep it then good if you don't then ok. and you being so young during delivery you will have to get an epidural. Here's something I wrote to another 14yr old pregnant. It's about the pregnany itself :
Well first of all they will give you an epidural no matter what because of your age. You will start gettign cravings and about 2months in maybe a lil sooner or later you wil lstart getting pains in your side. This is normal. All it is is Braxton Hicks. I've attatched a link with more info on it. It will hurt but just lay down and relax.
Cravings. with my daughter i craved nothing but chocolate and klondike bars and pizza. She was a junk food baby. My son i craved those cheese puffs that chinese restaurants have and cobb salad. Some have weird cravings some don't just depends.
You must also stay active. I was very active during my pregnancies and it helped me get right back to my figure afterwards. I lived pretty much at the beach and the local pools here in town. I also took walks every day for about an hour at a time. This also helps you go through a smooth delivery. PLus it keeps you and the baby healthy.
you will gain weight but don't get depressed about it. You are just making room for a baby. Never not eat because you think you are getting too fat. There is no such thing as gaining too much weight during a pregnancy other then like gaining 100lbs lol.
Go to the doctor regularly. He will test you for STDs that will effect the baby and he will give you a blood test to see if you are diabetic and all that good stuff. Also if you take the tests early enough you can see if the child is going to be mentally challenged or not.
Delivery. With my son I was induced because my doctor had somewhere to be. He induced me 3wks before my due date. The contactions hurt far worse then they did when I went into labor on my own with my daughter. The contractions are like tight pains all through your body. They hurt alot and you feel like you are going to die but it's completely normal and just means that you will finally see your bundle of joy. My water didn't break they had to break it for me but i was still in labor. With my daughter I was in labor for about 3 days straight before the contractions were finally close enough together for me to go to the hospital. I was in labor with my son for a total of 11hrs. With my daughter I had her within 3hrs of getting to the hospital. I was worried when I had my son on how i knew the baby was coming because he was my first. But the feeling is like you have to take a crap. Like you can't hold it or something and it's just pushing out. Lol that's the only way I can explain it. But then again I did mine all natural with no drugs at all or antyhing so I don't know how it feels or if you feel anything on an epidural. Then you give a couple of pushes and tada!! You have a beautiful baby.
Tearing during delivery. There is a slight chance that your vagina will tear during delivery if you naturally give birth. It's ok if this happens. The doctor will stitch you up and it will grow back together and be good as new. I was lucky I didn't tear with either of my children. They might also cut little slits but again that is ok nothing to worry about.
I really hope this helps. I want to be there for you if you need anyone to talk to. That goes for any young mother. i can provide support for you guys. I will never judge i promise. Good luck sweetheart and I hope everything works out for you.
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Also, don't listen to all these fools that just put you down. It's very good you are keeping the baby. Just remmeber though it is hard to raise a child. It's fun but its hard. It's only hard because of the crying. I was lucky enough to get 2 that slept through the night. I hope you are as lucky too. Don't ever get frustrated. If you feel angry at the baby just take a deep breath and walk away. Tell your mom and i'm sure she will ahndle it. Just relax and then go back to the baby. Also my email is taytnedfla@yahoo.com. Contact me if you need any advice or someone to talk to.
You will have sleepless nights. But this whole thing isn't just difficulties so don't just look at the bad look at the good as well. :-) Take care sweety.
Giving up their childhood. Emotional stress.
sex urges. abortion. adoption. school. the parents of the pregnant girl.
 Walking/Running Puppy - Advise needed
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What sort of difficlties do 14 year old pregnant couples face?